Deciding of Life Priorites

since the events of last year the god awful break up which left my life upside down and me rapidly spinning out of control I had only just at the time started working for my self  so I was very stressed to say the least I do feel now over a year latter that I have started to pull things back together don’t get me wrong they are  by no means perfect as yet but they are getting better  day by day.

I’m now having CBT to help me  deal with the stress that I’ve been under during the relationship with he who shall not be named I had put on a lot of weight which I have only recently started to shed.  So back to the gym it is for me  and lot of healthy eating My diet is seriously improved but this can fluctuate most of the foods Ive been eating have had mostly been vegetarian I’ve also found my love of cooking again.

red guacamole I made with onions, baby tomatoes and tomato puree with veggie burgers  this was great guacamole

Ive also started to draw again  which is some thing that I love.

I went on a date on saturday we spent the whole day talking about  random stuff it was great I hope we meet up again.

so all in all things are looking  up whoop .

So what i relay need to keep doing is focus on doing things that help me out and can keep me moving forward.

Time management

I’ve recently been taking on a lot  and I’m finding my time is split more and more between personal projects and projects for friends and actual paid work I’m currently building a site for a charity  and  have editing to do for some one else  and I’m supposed to doing photos and filming for a comedy night on sundays all of this is  unpaid  work this does mean that with all of this I have very little spare time to focus on unpaid work for people  so I’m think what I’m going to have to do is put a slow down on the unpaid stuff.

I was speaking to a business mentor the other day who suggested  that i set aside  a set amount of time each month that I can focus on unpaid  work which i think is fair and by far a better way  of doing things  any thing out side of this time would have  to be answered with a request  for some remuneration for my time time is money  after all.

At the end of the day it comes down to the fact even though I work for my self doesn’t mean that I can work for free which is true I have bills to pay I have retirement to save up for just like every one else does.

the down side to this is that it does mean I haven’t had much time to focus on my drawing  which is something that Ive recently got back into.

some images attached.


 

 

5 Things I Love about being self employed and 5 I Dont

Things I Love about it

1.I’m my own boss

I set my hours I work when I want  and where I want now this can have both positive and negative effects  some times this means I over work my self

2. I can chose what projects I work on

I Don’t have to have projects  handed  to me  and  work on my part  of it then sign off and thats it  Im there  from start to finish  of the project

3. I’m not tide to a desk all day

I can work any where that I can get a wifi signal in the past i have edited  videos in coffee shops and worked on websites on trains I have even  worked on my own sofa

4.I only have to work with others when I want or need to

I have  become a bit on a recluse of late  and this is because a lot of the time Being in a room full of people babbling away  can distract me and I find it some times hard  to concentrate

5.the creative  freedom

since being self employed I have felt that I have become more creative and have had more time to sit and think on things that I want to do

What I Don’t love about it

1. chasing  invoices

as part of being self employed you are  going to have to send out invoices to customers  this isn’t a problem I use a great  system called wave for most of my work out side of people per hour and  for people per hour its mostly dealt with by there systems but the one thing i hate having  to do it chase delinquent invoices that have not been paid by  clients  its a bit of a bug bear of mine.

2. being overworked

this can sometime be a good thing but I think something that I still have to learn  about being  self employed is setting boundaries for when I should work and when I shouldn’t.

3. not having enough work

being self employed can  have its peaks and troughs meaning that  one month I can have lots of work on and the next I can find my self  just  getting the required amount in I hate these times because  they can lead to self doubt  but yet again I think this is down more to time management than any thing else

4. finding a good work life balance

I only put this in the hate section as I find it a bit of a struggle but i assume I shall figure this out in time as I am only early  on in my self employed Journey.

5. feeling unsure about the future

as any one who has ever started  there own business or become self employed will know  one of the most scary things can be letting go of the safe net that a monthly wage brings

 

project management triangle

I have  been freelanceing  for nearly  2 years now on and off and  I feel that I have  quite  a good grasp  of   the market  place and  how things  work

250px-The_triad_constraints
taken from
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Project_management_triangle

and  as the  following image  shows  there is always  going to be  a direct  coloration  between  scope(ie what the project  requires) cost( how much  your  willing to spend ) and schedule( how long  you have yo complete  said  project ) all of these have an effect on  what  the quality  of the final  product is going to be   such as  some body  as king  for a  site to be built  that  mimics  say  google for £100 you may  find  somebody that is willing to  do this  for you  for that price but its  going to  take a while to get that  site its not going to be a rush  job.

This brings me to my point  all clients  out there please  don’t take this  to much to heart but  are  you mad when you ask a professional to build  you a fully  working site  with all bells and whistles included  with in 2 days  for £100.00  this is not  really feasible  you can get it done  in that  time scales yes but as its a rush  job and  your  designers is  more than likely  going to have yo pull a all night to get it completed for you in that time scale .

Your going to get charged more I’m sorry  but that is the way of things and it upsets me that people can not get this  there is a direct  connection between  time and cost  the saying time is money is not simply that a saying it is a truth  that many  people in the freelancing  world  live and work by.

Because  that  fact  of the matter is that  when i spend a whole weekend  building your site that is a whole weekend that I have lost and I am not getting to spend with my friends or family . this brings me  down to the roots of  this at the end of the day  would  you work a full weekend  on a project for some one else and expect to  get paid a pitance I don’t think  you would  now would you .

 

a few examples of client stupid ness can be found here http://clientsfromhell.net/

 

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